"Dear Daddy" Assignment

July 29, 2011
For many years of my life I had negative, bitter, and angry feelings towards my dad. It was so bad that I didn't call him "Daddy" but I called him by his first name. 

I was angry because when my parents got divorced when I was three years old, he stopped coming around and would only come into my life every now and then. I hated the fact that he was not in my life to protect me when I fell into the hands of a neighbor's son who sexually molested me for years. I felt like if he had been in my life, that would have never happened to me. I hated the fact that my mother was the one who raised me alone, sometimes having to work two jobs to take care of my sister and me. I hated the fact that whenever I went into the hospital and they called him to come in to take tests on my behalf, he was a no-show. I hated so many things about him. 

It was not until years later that I reconciled with my daddy and formed a close bond and relationship with him. However, before doing that I has so many "daddy issues" that results in how I dealt with men, and even how I dealt with my Heavenly Father. 

Sometimes expressing our feelings can help us deal with issues we are facing in our lives. I'm not sure if you have issues with your daddy or not. But I want to issue you an assignment... 

Write a letter to your daddy telling him how you feel about him. Whether you have bad, negative emotions or whether they are good, loving ones. Write a "Dear Daddy" letter. Get your feelings out and really share from the heart. If you want to share your letter with your daddy, pray about it first and then go from there. For the most part, you need to write your letter for YOU to express yourself. 

Before you write your letter, watch this YouTube video --> Dear Daddy

Again, if you have a great relationship with your daddy, tell him in the letter how much you love and appreciate him. However, if you have a bad one tell him how you feel. Read your letter aloud to yourself and listen to your words. Expressing how you feel is a HUGE part of healing! 

xoxo,

Ms. Dea~ 
 
 
 
 

 

Give 'em the deuces!

July 16, 2011

On our Facebook page, one of our TEENology word was "deuces" which is a symbol of saying goodbye or farewell to someone or something. So today, I decided to give "deuces" to some things in my life and I want you to join in with me. 

 

Today, I'm giving the deuces to:

  • Low self-esteem
  • Low self-worth
  • Low self-confidence
  • Past hurts, mistakes and failures
 

Yep, that's right! I'm saying goodbye to these things because they do not serve a purpose in my life. They do not help me to be a better person or enh...


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Thank you!

March 11, 2011
OMGosh! I'm so EXCITED about tonight's very first Girlz Talk virtual video class! Thank you so much for joining me! We are going to have a blast this year in the class and I can't wait! I just wanted to remind you of a few things.... 

Material needed for future classes: 
  • Pen
  • Journal
  • Bible 
  • Binder 

 Upcoming classes:

  • Dating Dos & Don'ts -- April 
  • Goal Setting -- May 
  • Skin Care & Body Image -- June
  • Social Networking Etiquette -- July
Refer friends:
  • Remember, for the first five young ladies who refer the mo...

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Just be YOUnique!

April 11, 2010
Hola ladies - 

A couple of years ago I watched an interview that Lil' Wayne did with Diddy talking about success. I really didn't want to watch it at first but when I considered that Lil' Wayne's album had just sold well over 1 million copies, I thought, "Let me hear what he has to say about success." 

In the interview he gave this advice, "Don't try to be different because in trying to be different you end up being like everybody else. Just be yourself." 

That was great advice! Do you kow why? ...

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Welcome to the Good Life...

April 11, 2010
Hey girlies! 

I'm really liking that song "Good Life" by Kanye West featuring T-Pain! I listen to the clean version of course. I like the message in the song - talking about having nice things and being able to go to nice places and not have to worry about the expense. 

The truth of the matter is, God wants us to experience the "good life" here on earth. He was us to have His very best. The Bible says in John 10:10 that Jesus came that we may have life and life more abundantly. 

Don't you want t...

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You Are Not a BANGER!

April 11, 2010
Hey girlies!

Okay, I have to admit it... I search the web for celebrity gossip often. Yeah, I know right? That's my only vice. Strange because I don't read it to spread the gossip, I just like reading it. Strange, I know. Somehow, it keeps me in the loop because I don't listen to certain music and I do work with teens.

Anyway, today I was looking at one particular website and it compared the looks between two young ladies who grew up before the camera on TV. They are both very beautiful young l...

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Word-POWER

April 10, 2010

 Hey girlies -

This week I want to talk to you about word-power. Did you know that every word you speak has power? That's right! Your words have the power to go and get whatever you say and bring it back to you. Don't believe me? Here's an example...

Let's say you have a test coming up at school. You study for the test, but you keep telling yourself and your friends that you're going to fail. You say it over and over and over again. Then, when the test is over and you get your results back......
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A Superstar!

March 20, 2010

The word of the Lupe Fiacso's song "Superstar"  rings in my ear as I write this blog... "If you are what you say you are... a superstar.. then have no fear... the camera's here..." 

Did you know that you are a superstar? Yes, YOU are a superstar! There's no need to try to be the next Beyonce' or Fantasia because you'll never be them anyway. Why? Because Beyonce's is the next Beyonce' and Fantasia is the next Fantasia... plain and simple! You just need to be YOU... no one else. You already poss...
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Restarting the Blog

March 20, 2010

Hey girlies! 

I just wanted to stop by and let you know that I am planning to restart the blog. So, please check back once a week for a new blog post. I'm so excited about starting the blog again!

I've been working really hard on my business, Quelynn, Inc. and also speaking at different engagements here and there. It's been a blessing and an amazing journey thus far. It's the plus of being your own boss or CEO! 

I read recently on Tyra Banks' blog about how you can "Be Your Own CEO" and it begin...
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Summer Goals

June 11, 2009
Hey Girlies -

It's summer time! What plans do you have for the summer?

Now that school is out and you are into your summer break, I want to encourage you to keep at it. Just because you are in break from school, it does not mean you are on break from life. As you spend time vacationing, hanging with family and friends, working, etc., be mindful of where you are going and what you want out of life.

Take some time to set goals for the summer. Your goals can include:

  • Read "X" amount of books
  • Apply ...

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