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"Dear Daddy" Assignment

Fri, 29 Jul 2011 23:24:25 +0100

For many years of my life I had negative, bitter, and angry feelings towards my dad. It was so bad that I didn't call him "Daddy" but I called him by his first name.

I was angry because when my parents got divorced when I was three years old, he stopped coming around and would only come into my life every now and then. I hated the fact that he was not in my life to protect me when I fell into the hands of a neighbor's son who sexually molested me for years. I felt like if he had been in my life, that would have never happened to me. I hated the fact that my mother was the one who raised me alone, sometimes having to work two jobs to take care of my sister and me. I hated the fact that whenever I went into the hospital and they called him to come in to take tests on my behalf, he was a no-show. I hated so many things about him.

It was not until years later that I reconciled with my daddy and formed a close bond and relationship with him. However, before doing that I has so many "daddy issues" that results in how I dealt with men, and even how I dealt with my Heavenly Father.

Sometimes expressing our feelings can help us deal with issues we are facing in our lives. I'm not sure if you have issues with your daddy or not. But I want to issue you an assignment...

Write a letter to your daddy telling him how you feel about him. Whether you have bad, negative emotions or whether they are good, loving ones. Write a "Dear Daddy" letter. Get your feelings out and really share from the heart. If you want to share your letter with your daddy, pray about it first and then go from there. For the most part, you need to write your letter for YOU to express yourself.

Before you write your letter, watch this YouTube video --> Dear Daddy

Again, if you have a great relationship with your daddy, tell him in the letter how much you love and appreciate him. However, if you have a bad one tell him how you feel. Read your letter aloud to yourself and listen to your words. Expressing how you feel is a HUGE part of healing!

xoxo,

Ms. Dea~

Give 'em the deuces!

Sat, 16 Jul 2011 04:04:10 +0100

On our Facebook page, one of our TEENology word was "deuces" which is a symbol of saying goodbye or farewell to someone or something. So today, I decided to give "deuces" to some things in my life and I want you to join in with me.

Today, I'm giving the deuces to:

Low self-esteem
Low self-worth
Low self-confidence
Past hurts, mistakes and failures

Yep, that's right! I'm saying goodbye to these things because they do not serve a purpose in my life. They do not help me to be a better person or enhance the essence of who I am. So, here's the picture of me giving deuces! :)

Okay, now what do you want to say goodbye to in your life? Let me know! Post YOUR OWN "deuces" picture on the mPOWERd 4 LIFE Girls Network wall at www.facebook.com/mPOWERd4LIFE and tell me what you're saying giving deuces to. Make it good! You never know with me... you could win a prize or something!

xoxo,

Ms. Dea~

Thank you!

Fri, 11 Mar 2011 04:35:10 +0100

OMGosh! I'm so EXCITED about tonight's very first Girlz Talk virtual video class! Thank you so much for joining me! We are going to have a blast this year in the class and I can't wait! I just wanted to remind you of a few things....

Material needed for future classes:

Pen
Journal
Bible
Binder

Upcoming classes:

Dating Dos & Don'ts -- April
Goal Setting -- May
Skin Care & Body Image -- June
Social Networking Etiquette -- July

Refer friends:

Remember, for the first five young ladies who refer the most friends, you will receive a free copy of the 2010 Revolve Biblezine! Just have your friends to log on to this page and click the "Register" tab. Also, make sure they give your name so you can receive credit for the referral!

Email me:

If you have any questions, comments or even suggestions on how to make the Girlz Talk classes even better, click here to email me today!

Thank you again for being a part of Girlz Talk! I look forward to our next class! In the meantime, remember to say, believe and be this... "I am great in Christ, and I am powerful beyond measure."

xoxo,

Deaquelynn~
Ms. Dea~

Just be YOUnique!

Sun, 11 Apr 2010 22:51:48 +0100

Hola ladies -

A couple of years ago I watched an interview that Lil' Wayne did with Diddy talking about success. I really didn't want to watch it at first but when I considered that Lil' Wayne's album had just sold well over 1 million copies, I thought, "Let me hear what he has to say about success."

In the interview he gave this advice, "Don't try to be different because in trying to be different you end up being like everybody else. Just be yourself."

That was great advice! Do you kow why? Because everybody is trying their best to be different... everybody! Being different takes away from you being yourself. Being different gives no one and opportunity to know YOU or to experience your essence (absolutely no one).

I know that you are out for summer break and within a few weeks school will resume. If you want to be sucessful in school or at anything in life, remember to be 'YOUnique'. Like I always say, you are one of a kind special gift from God -- if you try to be different no one will know what a special gift you are.

I love you and I thank God for you!

Well, until next week... get it girl!

Ms. Dea~

Welcome to the Good Life...

Sun, 11 Apr 2010 22:50:25 +0100

Hey girlies!

I'm really liking that song "Good Life" by Kanye West featuring T-Pain! I listen to the clean version of course. I like the message in the song - talking about having nice things and being able to go to nice places and not have to worry about the expense.

The truth of the matter is, God wants us to experience the "good life" here on earth. He was us to have His very best. The Bible says in John 10:10 that Jesus came that we may have life and life more abundantly.

Don't you want to experience the good life? Don't you want to experience God's super abundance in your life? If you do, then let me encourage you with a new motto I adopted for myself... "If you want something you've never had before, then you must do something you've never done before!"

Well, until next week... you get it girl!

Ms. Dea~

You Are Not a BANGER!

Sat, 30 Jul 2011 02:28:24 +0100

Hey girlies! Okay, I have to admit it... I search the web for celebrity gossip often. Yeah, I know right? That's my only vice. Strange because I don't read it to spread the gossip, I just like reading it. Strange, I know. Somehow, it keeps me in the loop because I don't listen to certain music and I do work with teens. Anyway, today I was looking at one particular website and it compared the looks between two young ladies who grew up before the camera on TV. They are both very beautiful young ladies. I actually recall watching them on TV and seeing them grow up before the camera. After comparing the two, one picture had on it, "She's cute" and the other had the words, "But she's a banger!" I just sat and looked at the word banger and I thought, "Is this what it has come to? That girls are now thought of as bangers?" What does banger mean? Banger is a term that guys use for women/girls they want to have sex with. They normally say, "I want to bang her" or "She is a banger." Young ladies, you are not a banger! Don't let anyone degrade your queendom by lowering you to the level of just being "banging" material. You are not a piece of meat! A butcher bangs a piece of meat to tenderize it. That's now what or who you are! You are a beautiful young woman of God, created in the likeness of His image, fearfully and wonderfully made. A guy may call you beautiful, goregous, cute, pretty, etc. but you are not a banger! Don't accept words like that [negative words] spoken to you or about you no matter how cute they may sound, nor who is saying them to you. Well, until next time... get it girl! Ms. Dea~

Word-POWER

Sun, 11 Apr 2010 13:36:21 +0100

Hey girlies -

This week I want to talk to you about word-power. Did you know that every word you speak has power? That's right! Your words have the power to go and get whatever you say and bring it back to you. Don't believe me? Here's an example...

Let's say you have a test coming up at school. You study for the test, but you keep telling yourself and your friends that you're going to fail. You say it over and over and over again. Then, when the test is over and you get your results back... you failed! Why? Because your words brought to you exactly what you said.

The Bible teaches us in Genesis chapter one that whatever God spoke, it happened right away. He said let there be light... and BAM... there was light! Just like that! Words are very powerful. That's why you have to be careful of the words you speak.

Do you want to get better grades? Then speak or say that you have better grades. Do you want to have a better relationship with your parents or sibling? Then say that! Whatever you want, if you'll only speak, it will come to fruition.

Until next time, practice your word-power and be mPOWERd 4 LIFE!

xoxo,

Ms. Dea~

A Superstar!

Sat, 20 Mar 2010 04:31:34 +0100

The word of the Lupe Fiacso's song "Superstar" rings in my ear as I write this blog... "If you are what you say you are... a superstar.. then have no fear... the camera's here..."

Did you know that you are a superstar? Yes, YOU are a superstar! There's no need to try to be the next Beyonce' or Fantasia because you'll never be them anyway. Why? Because Beyonce's is the next Beyonce' and Fantasia is the next Fantasia... plain and simple! You just need to be YOU... no one else. You already possess everything you need to be successful in life regardless of what you decide to do in the future.

Whatever gifts or talents you have, or whatever God puts on your heart to do... do it and do it to the best of your ability and to the truest sense of your genuine essence. Being YOU is something that no one else can do. Only YOU can be the best YOU ... so DO YOU, Boo! :) Remember, you are already a superstar! Now, just live like one and SHINE!

Until next time, be mPOWERd 4 LIFE!

xoxo,

Deaquelynn~ aka Ms. Dea~

Restarting the Blog

Sat, 20 Mar 2010 04:30:37 +0100

Hey girlies!

I just wanted to stop by and let you know that I am planning to restart the blog. So, please check back once a week for a new blog post. I'm so excited about starting the blog again!

I've been working really hard on my business, Quelynn, Inc. and also speaking at different engagements here and there. It's been a blessing and an amazing journey thus far. It's the plus of being your own boss or CEO!

I read recently on Tyra Banks' blog about how you can "Be Your Own CEO" and it begins with being the boss of your own life. What great advice! It starts somewhere, so you might as well begin with YOU! But here's the thing, don't take over too much that you leave no room for God to lead, guide and direct you.

The truth of the matter is, ultimately He's the boss and CEO of your life and if you allow Him to lead and guide you, you'll never go wrong. What I love about what I do as a life coach for women and teens is that God gave me the desire first. That's right! My desire to empower women and teens came from God first! And because I submitted to Him and followed Him, He made it all possible.

What do you want to do? What kind of life do you want to have? What are your deepest desires? Whatever they are, make sure that 1) they are from God, and 2) you start now making decisions that will help you begin to live those dreams, goals and desires. Then, and only then can you truly be your own CEO. What fun!

Until next time, be mPOWERd 4 LIFE!

xoxo,

Deaquelynn~ aka Ms. Dea~

Summer Goals

Sun, 11 Apr 2010 22:52:45 +0100

Hey Girlies -

It's summer time! What plans do you have for the summer?

Now that school is out and you are into your summer break, I want to encourage you to keep at it. Just because you are in break from school, it does not mean you are on break from life. As you spend time vacationing, hanging with family and friends, working, etc., be mindful of where you are going and what you want out of life.

Take some time to set goals for the summer. Your goals can include:

Read "X" amount of books
Apply for a summer job
Get into a summer program
Volunteer
Visit college campuses

Be sure to write your goals on paper and spend time every day planning and executing your goals. By the end of summer, you will be surprised as how much you will have accomplished in just a few short months.

Oh yeah, just to bring some balance... still have fun this summer. Just have a productive, fun summer! :)

Until next time, get it girl!

Deaquelynn~/Ms. Dea~